In the diplo-life, you’re either coming, or going, or waiting on one of the either. Part of the great unknown at the time of our Copenhagen departure was what comes next. We were going to DC of course but there still wasn’t much clarity on the question of how long. There was the time when the question of “ooo, what’s next?” was nothing but exciting. But with a husband on an unaccompanied tour, an uncertain balance in my own work, two kids, no place lined up to live, no familiarity with entering the US school system, stressful was the more operative word instead of exciting. I wasn’t sure how much to invest of ourselves – and not just financially – in our time in the US because we covered a whole range of possibilities for our stay, ranging from a few months to a few years.
But like most things in this lifestyle, it all worked out. And like most times in this lifestyle, not at all in the way we expected. Our onward is set and we’re trading in our European posts for one in Jordan, in the capital city of Amman (which was just featured in the New York Times travel section by the way). We’re excited – it’s a change for us, and people who have been posted there have nothing but great things to say about the post and the family quality of life. We wanted a little more adventure this time around and adventure is what we will get!
But there’s a catch. While the diplo-husband was offered pretty much his dream job in Amman, I was offered my own equivalent here. What to do? For anyone who’s tried to keep up a career while tied to a spouse with a traveling career, you know that this is an extremely hard trade-off to make. In the end, we split the difference. I came to DC with the kids to start on our life here, he returned safely from Iraq and we’ll have a great year here all together. He’ll head to Amman this summer, while I stay behind one more year so that I can finish out my own opportunity. This lifestyle of perpetual transitions is hard, and for the kids and I, we just weren’t ready to make another one quite so soon. Dream jobs are dream jobs, and they don’t come around all that often – some opportunities you have to know when you see. There is rarely a perfect arrangement but there often is a solution of some kind that’s workable. This one isn’t ideal, but it’s a compromise we go into with eyes open. And Jordan, we are ready for you in Summer 2018!
Photo of Amman, Jordan by Tom Mussak for Unsplash.